Oftentimes, people tend to use unique phrases such as “Self-Esteem” when talking about raising kids. However, have you ever wondered about the real meaning behind it?
Further, why do you think it is a greater issue when it involves children with attention issues and learning disorders?
A child’s self-esteem can be defined in simple terms as how much value she places in herself. It should always be noted that words filled with positivity and motivation go a long way in instilling self-esteem and can end up having a greater impact in the lives of children.
Further, when children value themselves, they benefit from confidence and enjoy being able to stand up in any situation. Not only do they tend to be confident, they also enjoy being able to learn at a faster pace and manage their world at a better pace.
Let us have a look at how having high levels of self-esteem helps young kids
When youngsters have higher levels of self-esteem, they tend to do
- Act Independently
- Enjoy a greater sense of inner respect
- Enjoy being in control over events happening around them
- Be responsible
- Have the courage to make better decisions
- Not bow-down easily to peer pressure
What are the ways through which we can help a child develop good levels of self-esteem?
Children are seen to develop greater levels of self-esteem when they experience repeated success. Successful accomplishments help them gear up for newer challenges. They end up feeling good, which goes a long way in boosting their confidence levels.
On par with adults, children too enjoy when their near ones are pleased with their accomplishments. Over time, this helps children reach higher levels of self-esteem.
Attention Issues and Learning
Young children who experience attention and learning issues are often seen struggling with their self-esteem needs. However, this doesn’t mean they never enjoy or experience success. The issue crops up due to the inconsistency in their experiences.
At times, children find their schoolwork difficult to complete. Children with attention and learning issues are at times wholeheartedly accepted by their circle of school-going friends, while on the other hand, they are also prone to suffer as gullible targets to bullies.
This is seen to further trigger fears of uncertainty in their own capabilities, making them weaker in facing challenges.
“Self-Esteem building is a constant activity. To successfully accomplish it, children need to learn the ways to value themselves.”
At times, children can quickly differentiate sincere feedback from insincere feedback. During unfavorable times such as these, children are negatively affected as they tend to start mistrusting the adults who try their best to help boost their children’s motivation levels. Further, their friendships get affected as they tend to become wary of other children who may be their friends.
Low Self-Esteem: What are the effects?
Children with lower levels of self-esteem may start believing they are unworthy of better treatment. When they turn in this direction, they risk themselves as they consider that it is better not to ask for help.
Children need to develop their self-advocacy skills in order to stand up for themselves.
Lower levels of self-esteem are also seen to be the root of other challenges of more severity because of:
- Repeated failures
- Being frustrated and troubled with deeper anxieties
- Higher levels of sadness
Children in situations such as these risk losing their interest in studies. Further, their friendships take a negative toll and some may start living in denial.
Parents as Role-Defining Models to help children with their self-esteem issues
It is always possible to build self-esteem in our children. They just need to be guided to the right path that will help them to value themselves. The real key lies in being supportive throughout.
Instill confidence in your child by praising his smaller efforts. However, care needs to be exercised so that you don’t end up praising them for everything they do.
Children as they grow up develop the capability to differentiate between when they are working hard or not. You can also speak to their teachers and request their active participation.
Further, help your child in finding friends who accept and value him/her for who he/she is. This helps him/her to be better motivated whilst enjoying adult support.
As a parent, it is always beneficial to keep learning about the ways you can nurture your child’s self-esteem.
It helps to prepare your child for a world that is a much better place to live in and to actively pursue challenges that come along his/her way.
Summarising Key Takeaways of this article
Instilling positive self-esteem in your children can help them manage their day-to-day attention issues and learning activities successfully as they gradually build confidence.
Youngsters who tend to value themselves are seen to be more likely to ask for help, should they deem it necessary.
You need to always be a supportive but a realistic parent to help your child completely develop into tomorrow’s responsible individual.